So God knows, I'm not a fitness guru, or a Chief with a degree in Culinary Arts. I'm not even remotely interested in becoming so either. I'm not skinny, and my eating habits sometimes slip from 'hardly eat anything ever' to 'oh my god, I'm SO hungry! Feed me all the things!"
So why do I write about health and food? Well that would be a million dollar question for some of those who know me personally. Well I guess I will share my story.
It started out with a emotionally and mentally abusive husband. Now ex-husband thank goodness. For almost a decade I gave myself to this man, and when we finally got married, all of a sudden I was too "fat" for him. "Morbidly obese" he called me. Which... by the way I'm NOT. Despite losing almost a hundred pounds when I was with him, I was unable to achieve Barbie Trophy Wife status that he was aiming for.
He will always claim it was my health he was concerned about, however those who know me personally and have seen my continued improvement in my weight, will disagree. And as someone who had the private arguments with him. so do I.
I had agreed to his very strict diet while I was with him. A no-carb almost paleo diet. Now for normal people, this diet does cause weight loss. It did for his parents, and for him (he and his father were almost skeletal when I left, in a grotesque display of being very under-weight. How he's doing now I have no idea).
But when the diet did not work for me I went to the doctor to see what was going on. I had very painful periods, more painful than the normal. And during weeks of ovulation and even during weeks I was not, I was experience pain in my ovaries. Sometimes exercise to my ex-husbands extreme disappointment was impossible due to the pain being too much for me. Sometimes I would be talking or walking and suddenly I'd be on the floor sobbing due to the pain suddenly flaring up.
With an ultra sound and a few blood tests it was confirmed. I have PCOS. Poly-cystic ovarian syndrome. An endocrine imbalance. And guess what? It makes weight loss very difficult. Women with PCOS have to exercise at least three times the usual amount than a normal woman to lose weight.
WELL. Crap. That sucks. And even with my health condition, the breaking straw to my relationship were the words: "But like I said, your weight is a deal breaker, and that is no lie. If PCOS made it impossible I'm not gonna lie it would be over. I can't envision myself living our lives forever with this problem between us if it stayed that way."
Literally. Verbatim. So I ended my toxic marriage and broke away. And now I am still struggling with weight control. I have lost weight since that conversation too, but painstakingly.
And I am not the only one with PCOS that is struggling with my weight. And PCOS is not the only health condition out there that makes it difficult for people to become "healthy." Now, mind you, I fully believe you can still be chubby an still be healthy as a horse.
But for a lot of us, men and women alike, it's a mental health that I relate to the most. As someone who was abused by the person I trusted the most in the world over my weight, I understand the psychological pain that "bigger than average" people feel. I also understand that it's not always about being lazy or whatever but it could be hormone, or a physical handicap, or a health condition that is keeping someone from reaching their goals, try as they might.
I also understand, as someone who was forced into a diet I was not entirely happy about, how sometimes in a diet, things can leave you feeling unsatisfied, with a "hungry" feeling. The recipes and tips I leave on this blog are for those of us who are trying to eat healthy, and not feel 'starved' of things that they enjoy. It also is easy to feed your families these recipes in case you're trying to get them on board with your 'less junk more green' diet.
Just remember everyone. Everything in moderation. There is ALWAYS room for one or two pieces of chocolate every couple days. No over doing it. And that applies with your diets and exercise too. You would not eat an entire cake, so do not start off your regimes with suddenly cutting out all of your 'bad' foods and working out three hours a day. Don't shock your body and gradually get into it.
Be healthy. Be smart. Be strong. You're not alone.